Who Pays For What? Bridal Party Edition

Planning a wedding is exciting, emotional and let’s be honest, sometimes just a little bit awkward. One of the questions that tends to pop up early on is: who actually pays for what when it comes to the bridal party? It’s not always clear-cut, and the traditions aren’t set in stone anymore.

So, I thought I’d pull together a bit of a guide based on what I’ve seen over the years as a Scottish wedding photographer. Whether you’re the couple tying the knot or part of the wedding party trying to navigate the do’s and don’ts, here’s a breakdown that might help.

This one really varies, but a lot of couples do choose to cover the cost of hair and makeup as a way to say thank you to their bridal party. It’s a lovely gesture and it means everyone gets to feel a bit pampered before the big event. Plus, it takes the pressure off when it comes to finding a stylist and getting timings sorted.

That said, not every wedding budget can stretch that far. If you’re asking your bridal party to chip in, or cover the cost completely, just be upfront about it early. A lot of people are totally fine with paying their way, but they’ll appreciate the clarity.

Outfits are usually one of the biggest expenses, and again, there’s no one rule. Some couples will cover the cost of dresses or suit hire for their party, while others might ask them to pay for their own.

If you are asking your crew to pay, try to keep cost and wearability in mind. Choosing something they can wear again (or easily get altered for future use) makes a big difference. And for those going down the kilt route, you could consider splitting the hire fee or covering one part of the outfit.

The main thing is not to spring it on them. Let everyone know what’s expected early on, and try to avoid anything too expensive or difficult to source.

When it comes to things like shoes, jewellery or even matching bow ties, most couples tend to let their party sort themselves out. But if you’ve got something specific in mind, like coordinated shoes or everyone wearing the same necklace – it’s kind to offer to cover the cost or include it in their gift.

Think of it this way, if it’s something they probably wouldn’t have bought or worn otherwise, it’s fair to consider paying for it.

Honestly, this is the most important part. Everyone’s situation is different and there’s no right or wrong approach. Just keep the conversation open, be upfront early, and try to be mindful of what works for your people. These are your closest pals, there to support you, not to stress over spreadsheets.

The best wedding days are the ones where everyone feels relaxed, appreciated and part of something special. And whether you’re covering every cost or asking for a wee contribution, as long as you’ve had the chat, you’re doing it right.

If you’re currently planning your own wedding and looking for a wedding photographer in Aberdeenshire, I’d love to hear from you!